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Saying Goodbye to Bingo: A Life Lesson in Letting Go of Life

I.   Our family had a special voice we used in order to talk on behalf of our dog, Bingo. “Bingo’s voice” was high pitched and raspy — a sort hybrid of whininess and spunk. A blend of his adorable neurosis mixed with his unstoppable joie de vivre. It turns out that (at least in our […]

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Be Compassionate: “I hope you have a hard life,too!” — an outburst overheard and understood

I honestly can’t say what the fight was about. I was only there to witness its conclusion. And just barely that. I was walking out of the drugstore yesterday with my  purchase in hand, smiling and feeling the sun and the fresh fall air on my skin, when I heard a car door slam loudly […]

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Be Happy: Just because your teen is unhappy, doesn’t mean you have to be!

I live in a home with two teens and two preteens. In the South, where I live, people tend to respond to this fact by saying, “Oh, bless your heart.” Yes, bless my heart. Bless it with happiness and strength. For, if there is a theme for our lives right now it is this: Moods […]

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Top Ten Videos that Will Make You Cry (In a Good Way!)

NOTE: Scroll on down if you just want to see the “TOP TEN Videos that Will Make You Cry”!  I am a big believer in the healing power of tears. I believe this because I am a cryer. I cry at weddings. Graduations. Bar Mitzvahs. Movies. Poetry. Prayers. And yes, even commercials. I cry every […]

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Parents: It’s not “I love you but …” — it’s “I love you AND …”

“I love you but you are being so irresponsible.” “I love you but I am sick and tired of asking you to pick up your stuff.” “I love you but you have got to bring your grades up.” “I love you but you are acting completely helpless.” “I love you but I don’t have to […]

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Be Courageous: All Meaningful Paths Begin with a Single Step

The path to peace begins with unrest. The path to wisdom begins with unknowing. The path to love begins with loneliness. The path to a new life begins with the old. If we want to get to where we are going, we must first compassionately accept where we are. Then take one brave step forward […]

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Be Fair: A plea for a more compassionate response

Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing, There is a field. I will meet you there. – Rumi   As a teacher I saw this sort of scene unfold more times than I can recall. I would be watching group of children playing a game – kickball or keep-away or freeze tag.  I’d look away […]

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How To Be Compassionate: Stuck in traffic? Maybe you are behind your spiritual teacher.

Three years ago, I was at a spiritual retreat at Blue Cliff Monastery in New York with the Venerable Thich Nhat Hanh, Zen Master, poet, and peace activist.  I can’t begin to express what a transformative experience it was: learning to sit peacefully, gently attending to my in breath and out breath; learning to eat mindfully […]

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Be Different: Because in being different, we are all the same

During the month of December, I’ll be participating in a project called Reverb 10.  Reverb 10 is “an open online initiative that encourages participants to reflect on this year and manifest what’s next. It’s an opportunity to retreat and consider the reverberations of your year past, and those that you’d like to create in the year ahead.” Each day […]

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How To Be Connected: A Class Reunion in Cyberspace

During the month of December, I’ll be participating in a project called Reverb 10.  Reverb 10 is “an open online initiative that encourages participants to reflect on this year and manifest what’s next. It’s an opportunity to retreat and consider the reverberations of your year past, and those that you’d like to create in the year ahead.” Each day […]

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